Thursday, February 20, 2014
Review/Recommendation of "The Dudes Guide To Manhood" by Darrin Patrick
As anyone who has come across this blog and glanced over one or two of my posts should know by now, I started this blog back in May of 2013 with the intention of creating a site that would mainly be dedicated towards things such as positive thinking, being healthy, personal growth, and discussing all things manly. However, as I would soon come to discover, I was not the first person to come up with such an idea. Some of you have read my review of The Ultimate Man's Survival Guide by Frank Miniter, and know that it is one of my go-to books and will likely be a permanent resident of my book shelf. A few short weeks ago, I learned of another book entitled The Dude's Guide To Manhood by pastor Darrin Patrick. I decided right away that I needed to purchase it, read it, and write a review of it. I simply knew that it would be a perfect fit for this blog.
The book begins with forwards from Willie Robertson of Duck Dynasty and NFL running back Steven Jackson, which leads us to an introduction from the author himself in which he tells us a little bit about his personal background. From the get-go, Mr. Patrick is very open about his own life and the struggles and challenges he has faced throughout the years. Once the book begins, he makes frequent references to both movies and baseball to get his points across -- which makes this my kind of book!
Speaking of baseball, one area that really hit home for me was in the very first chapter when Patrick spoke of how he was a catcher on his high school's baseball team. Although he was a good defender and could clobber any fastball, he had trouble hitting the curveball. Heeding the advice of Jack Buck, the St. Louis Cardinals' legendary broadcaster, Patrick writes of how he took a tee into the gym and hit hundreds of balls off of it every day for a period of two months. His intention was to learn how to keep his weight back, and drive the breaking ball to the opposite field.
Although hitting the curveball was never as easy for Patrick as hitting the fastball was, eventually he could do it (Patrick, 3). However, it took a lot of work and consumed a lot of his hours.
He uses this as an example for how to adjust when we are thrown curveballs in real life, and speaks of how his aforementioned experience taught him of how true commitment and determination is absolutely essential if one seeks real change or improvement -- in any aspect of life. I really enjoyed this analogy as I have always personally thought that baseball is the perfect metaphor for life. This entire chapter is basically dedicated to how to overcome certain adversities of life which everyone will inevitably be faced with at one time or another. Patrick describes how one can triumph and persevere over these challenges as long as they have determination (Patrick 4).
Unfortunately though, he describes how some men fail to adjust and decide to throw in the reins. He speaks of how it is easier for some to just bury their heads in the sand, and focus their attention elsewhere rather than painstakingly and relentlessly pushing themselves to figure out how to hit the curveballs that life has thrown at them (Patrick 4).
I will not bore you by going through every little detail of the rest of the book, and I don't want to spoil it for you either, so I will try to keep the remainder of this review as concise as possible. The book is essentially what the title describes: a guide or a map for manhood. It is simply a book for men who want to become better men. In addition to Mr. Patrick's great advice on how to persevere and adjust when "life throws you curve balls," he also has chapters on the importance of being coachable, being content, and being disciplined. Towards the end, Patrick also offers advice on being a devoted family man. There is also an overarching theme of positive thinking and having a strong mental attitude throughout the book.
At any rate, it is a great book and men of all ages and backgrounds could surely learn something from it. It is a book for those who seek to be mature and responsible "dudes" as Patrick would say. It has most certainly earned its place in the Manly Book section of TWAM!
Till next time,
Patrick, Darrin. The Dude's Guide to Manhood: Finding True Manliness in a World of Counterfeits. Nashville, TN: Nelson Books, 2014. Print.