Friday, June 7, 2013

Be a Pal

       As I alluded to in my previous post, I am currently in the process of reading Frank Miniter's book The Ultimate Man's Survival Guide. Without giving too much away, one of the points Miniter makes in his book, which I would like to expound upon, is the fact that we are loosing our buddies these days. In order to show how friendship was stronger in the past, Miniter reaches back in time and speaks of important historical friendships such as the one Meriwether Lewis and William Clark had. Meriwether Lewis and William Clark were, of course, the men who led the epic Lewis and Clark westward expedition after Thomas Jefferson made the Louisiana Purchase in 1803. Miniter also discusses the famous friendship of the legendary writers C.S. Lewis and J.R.R Tolkien, who brought us the fantasy worlds of Narnia and Middle Earth, and also taught together at Oxford. Miniter also speaks of the more contemporary friendship of Apple co-founders Steve Jobs and Steve "Woz" Wozniak, as well as a few other famous friendships, and proceeds to ask the question of what would have become of these individuals if it hadn't been for their pals.
       In part seven of the book, which is titled "Pals," Miniter speaks of a 2006 study, which was published in the American Sociological Review, that showed one quarter of Americans do not have any close friends at all. Moreover, he also writes of how in 1985, the average man had four buddies, and then goes on to state that the study showed that this number had fallen to a mere two in 2006. I also think that it is important to note that in the social media age people have hundreds of friends online, but hardly any close friends in real life. I think that it is time we reverse this trend and start being buddies with one and other again. Another point Miniter makes in his book is that one of the by products of loosing our friends, is that we are becoming more self centered. An Alpha Male is certainly not an arrogant guy who puffs out his chest, picks on people, and thinks he is better than everyone else. He is a strong, kind, and trustworthy person who is a loyal friend. So gentlemen, I would like to encourage you to call up a few of your old buddies, start up a man club, start playing card games with them one night a week, go on hunting and fishing trips with the guys, or start up a writers club like "The Inklings" which J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis were members of. It is time we got our pals back. 

Till next time, friends-